This would have to be arguably the most important part of this blog.
If you are serious about Internet dating then you are going to want
to create yourself a profile. It’s such an important part of the whole
Internet dating game, yet it’s the one thing people have the most
problem with. Because of that, it’s also the one thing they often put
the least amount of effort into. This is not what you want. Apart
from actual searching, your profile should be without a doubt the
component that you spend the most amount of time and effort on.
Your profile is important for several reasons:
• It is your chance to express yourself, and who and what you are
looking for.
• It will dictate what kind of response you get, how many people
respond, and what type of people respond.
• It is a source of information for other people to find out more
about you when you email them.
There are no hard and fast rules to making the perfect profile;
everyone is different, and so will be your perfect profile. However,
there are a great many things that you can do wrong that can
seriously jeopardise any chance you have of getting a reply. Just as
importantly there are also some general things that you can do to
greatly improve your chances.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Automatic Profile Generation Sites
Avoid sites that generate your profile text for you. On these sites
you are asked to fill in detailed questions about yourself and who
you are looking for. From this information the site automatically
generates a profile based on your information. For example:
“John is a 28yo Male from Sydney Australia. He is 5’11” and
weighs 75 kg. He has blue eyes and pale skin. His religion is not
important. His interests include Soccer and Wind Surfing.
“John is looking for a 20-30yo female located in Sydney. She
should be between 5’1 and 5’9” tall with a slim to average build.”The object of this is to give everyone the same chance, and in
turn to generate a site full of supposed ‘quality’ profiles. As you
can see, however, the result is not exactly a work of art. In fact,
it’s mind numbingly boring.
Not surprisingly this doesn’t work in practice, and the only
outcome is to bore those who are searching for profiles. Try this
yourself and you’ll quickly find that even searching a few profiles
becomes incredibly tedious.
On top of that it’s next to impossible to stand out in any respect
against your competition. Avoid these sites if you can.
you are asked to fill in detailed questions about yourself and who
you are looking for. From this information the site automatically
generates a profile based on your information. For example:
“John is a 28yo Male from Sydney Australia. He is 5’11” and
weighs 75 kg. He has blue eyes and pale skin. His religion is not
important. His interests include Soccer and Wind Surfing.
“John is looking for a 20-30yo female located in Sydney. She
should be between 5’1 and 5’9” tall with a slim to average build.”The object of this is to give everyone the same chance, and in
turn to generate a site full of supposed ‘quality’ profiles. As you
can see, however, the result is not exactly a work of art. In fact,
it’s mind numbingly boring.
Not surprisingly this doesn’t work in practice, and the only
outcome is to bore those who are searching for profiles. Try this
yourself and you’ll quickly find that even searching a few profiles
becomes incredibly tedious.
On top of that it’s next to impossible to stand out in any respect
against your competition. Avoid these sites if you can.
Don’t Believe Everything You Read
Many sites may seem impressive when they claim to have
hundreds of thousands, or even millions of members, but take
this with the proverbial grain of salt. The truth is that while they
may have that many registered profiles, the number of active
members is much less. Many profiles are abandoned, duplicates,
not serious, and could in fact be many years old. There is no way
to know how many active profiles a site has. Remember also that
half or even more will be of the opposite sex.
If you really want to know how many profiles are applicable to
you, then do a broad search for your criteria. The search will tell
you how many profiles it found. Now search again, but this time
only for profiles that have been active in the last month (if this
search option exists). This will give you the best indication of how
many possible candidates are on that site.
On many sites, you have to register just to do a simple search.
Many people will register and create a profile in order to just take
a peek, thus creating yet another inactive profile.
hundreds of thousands, or even millions of members, but take
this with the proverbial grain of salt. The truth is that while they
may have that many registered profiles, the number of active
members is much less. Many profiles are abandoned, duplicates,
not serious, and could in fact be many years old. There is no way
to know how many active profiles a site has. Remember also that
half or even more will be of the opposite sex.
If you really want to know how many profiles are applicable to
you, then do a broad search for your criteria. The search will tell
you how many profiles it found. Now search again, but this time
only for profiles that have been active in the last month (if this
search option exists). This will give you the best indication of how
many possible candidates are on that site.
On many sites, you have to register just to do a simple search.
Many people will register and create a profile in order to just take
a peek, thus creating yet another inactive profile.
Finding Personals Sites
With literally thousands of personals sites on the Internet, finding
one shouldn’t be too hard. Finding one that is right for you on the
other hand is a bit more difficult.
I’ll make things a bit easier for you by listing a few of the major
sites in various countries. This is not a recommendation for any
particular site, but they are some of the biggest and more reputable
ones. You should start by investigating each one and find out if it’s
worthwhile for you.
If you are really serious and have the time, then a profile on
multiple sites will only improve your chances of meeting someone.But following the principles in this book, and regularly being active
on each site can be very time consuming.
If you are looking at meeting people locally then it’s best to
start with the sites that cater for your particular country. Note,
however, that many sites work equally well for any country.
one shouldn’t be too hard. Finding one that is right for you on the
other hand is a bit more difficult.
I’ll make things a bit easier for you by listing a few of the major
sites in various countries. This is not a recommendation for any
particular site, but they are some of the biggest and more reputable
ones. You should start by investigating each one and find out if it’s
worthwhile for you.
If you are really serious and have the time, then a profile on
multiple sites will only improve your chances of meeting someone.But following the principles in this book, and regularly being active
on each site can be very time consuming.
If you are looking at meeting people locally then it’s best to
start with the sites that cater for your particular country. Note,
however, that many sites work equally well for any country.
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